What makes me a "Dominant"

Quoting M'Lady Aileana "It's not the leather,paddles,whips and chains that make the Dominant it's the mind and heart delighting in the responses"

Wow, does that say it or what!? I have been thinking about this quote since M'Lady posted it. It means a lot to me, an a-typical Domme.

I don't own any leather clothing (paddles, floggers and chains...welll..um...yeah...grin), I have one pair of killer boots that may kill me, if I fall off them because I can't handle heels.. lol and I don't think I could make someone tremble in fear.

I operate more from a 'Queen-Mother-Goddess' stance. I protect, I instruct, I tease, I withhold, I reward, I experiment and push and I discipline when necessary, and more with words than physical punishment.

I find my pleasure as a Dominant, in seeing the responses, in hearing the sighs, the wimpers, the moans, in watching my dear little one drop to the floor at my feet out of love, respect and worship.

I find my pleasure in the way my little one is solicitous, and attentive when I have denied him release for days and days. I find my pleasure in the control my little one shows and the responsibility in informing me when the cage is needed if I have neglected to cage him...what a good little one!

I find pleasure in the trust I have that if i do ask something, it will be accomplished. I find very much pleasure in him wanting to care for me, to serve me in the little things...doing the laundry and cleaning, (which I know he hates), cooking wonderful food for me, driving me -because I'd much rather be 'driven' places than drive myself.

I find pleasure in experimenting (carefully..always carefully) with new techniques, new 'games' during our playtime.

I have one picture, (which I will not post as I will not post my little one's face online), where she is laying on the floor, her pretty feminine corset, etc., totally rumpled...spent...a huge silly grin on her face.

This is a photograph that delights me! That is my "mind and heart delighting in the response". How could any dominant. who cares for her sub, not delight in seeing her little one's joyful response to an evening's play? Seeing him disheveled, pretty, giggling with joy and at peace.

I find my dominance in my little one's eyes...from there it moves to my heart and becomes part of me, allowing me to continue growing into the dominant woman I am.

Maybe someday I'll buy some leather, but it won't make me any more of a dominant than I am without it. And if I were to throw out all my paddles and toys (don't worry, NOT gonna happen..lol) I would be just as dominant as I am with them.

Thank you M'Lady, it is a wonderful quote!



(JUST A NOTE: Since this writing, I now own leather, more paddles, whips, toys etc.. and several more pairs of boots.. it doesn't make me any more Dominant ...although I LOVE all of it.....and it is still the responses of my submissive(s) that thrill me more than anything else!)