Quiet Presence

There is something to be said for simple presence.
Now there are those who feel that in order to be noticed, they need to dominate. To dominate the conversation, the activity, be the center of attention, or the boss of everything. "Notice ME" -- "I am important". But the ones who capture my attention are those who are more low key. Those who don't insist on informing the world about just how important they are.

I recently went to a weekend long gathering of several hundred fellow kinksters. For the first time, I went alone without my beloved submissive husband. I went with an open mind, to observe myself and others, to learn and to be open to new and varied experience. "Floating with the tides of the Universe" I went looking forward to experience whatever the weekend had in store for me.

I did a lot of people watching. I experienced a lot of things that were very new to me. I met many new people. I met many who I felt as if I knew because I have seen them around for years, but was never introduced before.

I saw the 'look at me' folks. I enjoyed dressing up and looking sexy myself all weekend and hope that those who did look enjoyed what they saw. But the clothes on (or off) everyone were only the first layer. I tried to spend my weekend looking deeper.

What I found was that scattered amongst the showiness were those (tops and bottoms alike) who seemed to have a presence. A quiet peace about them that said these people know who they are. They did't have to shout it out, or proclaim that they were MASTER so and so to everyone they met, in a loud and mighty voice. They didn't have to grovel to show they have the service heart of a slave. In both cases their actions showed it.

In a sense it is un-definable. But when you see these folks, when you meet them, you know them. I was honored to meet many and hope that I will have many more opportunities to not only communicate but to be in community and learn from each of them in the future.