But you don't LOOK Dominant...

You are right. I probably don't.

But I am dominant and I am served. Full time by one and part time by others. Each of them is a joy to me. I am served daily and I am served well.

I don't walk around wearing leather. I'm not a bitch - well, most of the time I try not to be. I run a pretty democratic household. My husband and I make decisions together, and he is in charge of quite a few things.

But what is a Dominant really. A Dominant is one who does things his or her way, and who has thier submissives serve them in the ways they wish to be served.

I don't want my submissives crawling about kow-towing to me all day long.. that is just tiresome. I don't want to be worring about thier every action and directing them every moment of the day.

I want submissives who are self-directed, who have the brains and intelligence to study me, to learn my ways and wants. The need to know me so well that most times they can figure out what will please me without my having to tell them. If they don't know what to do in a particular case, they will have the sense to ask.

So no, I don't walk around ordering people about. I appear rather subdued and relaxed. My submissives appear quite dominant at times, making decisions for me, occasionally even directing me, taking charge of things, making decisions for themselves. Ultimately however, if any of those things are contrary to my will, they will be corrected.

My life is easier and enriched because of the excellent service I recieve... because I am a dominant served by wonderful submissives. Isn't that what it's about in the end?

The best service, is service you don't have to think about.